Couples Therapy in Los Angeles
Helping you and your partner reconnect, communicate, and build the relationship you actually want. For couples and relationship structures of every kind, in person and online across California.
Prefer to call? (213) 910-4212
California Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist #116845
I'm a gay, queer-identified therapist working with the LGBTQ+ community since 2012. I specialize in LGBTQ+ individual and couples therapy, addiction and substance use, and anxiety. I received my MA in Psychology at University of the West. I'm trained in EMDR (EMDRIA-Approved Basic Training), the Trauma Resiliency Model, and Motivational Interviewing. I have offices in Larchmont Village and on Melrose Avenue near West Hollywood.
Read more about Alan · Last reviewed: August 2026
Something has shifted, and you can't quite name when
Maybe the arguments have gotten louder. Or maybe it's the opposite, and you've both gone quiet, tiptoeing around the things that actually need to be said.
Maybe the intimacy has faded, or trust has been broken, or you're just not sure you're on the same page anymore about where this is heading.
You're not alone in this, and it doesn't mean your relationship is beyond repair.
Why work with an LGBTQ-affirming couples therapist
LGBTQ+ relationships face challenges that are their own. Working with a therapist who shares your lived experience means you don't spend sessions explaining the basics of your relationship. You get straight to the work that matters.
As a gay, queer-identified therapist, I understand the dynamics that show up specifically in queer relationships: navigating open versus monogamous structures, managing different levels of outness, dealing with family rejection or disapproval of your partnership, the pressures of comparison culture on social media and the apps, and the particular ways internalized shame can erode intimacy and trust.
What couples therapy can help with
- →Communication breakdowns — when conversations keep turning into arguments, or when important things go unsaid.
- →Trust and infidelity — when trust has been broken and you're trying to figure out if repair is possible.
- →Intimacy and connection — when the emotional or physical closeness has faded and you're not sure how to get it back.
- →Substance use and its impact on the relationship — when drinking or drug use has become a source of conflict or distance.
- →Life transitions — moving in together, career changes, grief, or figuring out the future of the relationship.
- →Different needs and expectations — when you want different things and need help finding common ground.
- →Relationship structure — navigating monogamy, openness, or polyamory, and the specific dynamics that come with each.
How couples therapy with me works
We'll start with a free 15-minute consultation, so I can learn a bit about what's going on and everyone can get a sense of whether I'm the right fit.
I work collaboratively with all partners to understand each person's perspective, identify the patterns keeping you stuck, and build practical tools for communicating and connecting more effectively.
My approach is direct but compassionate. I'm not going to sit silently while you repeat the same argument you had in the car on the way here. Couples sessions are 50 minutes and cost $200.
Common questions about couples therapy
For the most part, yes. The work happens with everyone in the room, so joint sessions are the norm. I also keep a no-secrets policy: if something comes up in an individual conversation, it's made available to the other partner. That keeps the trust in the room honest and protects the work.
That's common, and it doesn't have to be a dealbreaker. Often one person reaches out first. The free consultation is a low-key way for a hesitant partner to get a feel for the process before committing to anything.
Yes. I work with monogamous, open, and polyamorous relationships without judgment, and without making you explain the basics first.
It depends on what you're working through. Some come in for a specific issue and move through it in a few months, while others stay longer for deeper work. We'll set the pace together.
Ready to stop going in circles and start moving forward?
If you're ready to reconnect, let's talk.
Prefer to call? (213) 910-4212